Why a welfare association exclusively for men?
Ask someone about the problems of women and a list would emerge that would never seem to end. Ask about men’s problems and all one sees is blank faces. Does that mean that men do not have any problem? Or is it that there is no awareness of it amongst the general public, or, it is just that men are simply taken for granted?
- If we look back, in the last 62 years of independent India not a single rupee has ever been allocated for men’s welfare from the Union Budget.
- Not a single constitutional or quasi-constitutional body has ever been formed to identify redress problems peculiar to men.
- Not a single attempt has ever been made to recognize that men too have problems
- Not a single scheme ever been envisaged for men’s welfare.
On the other hand men are always discriminated against in the guise of women empowerment.
Hence, in the backdrop of this emptiness, the men of India thought enough is enough and we have to join together and have our voice heard! And it is this void of non-recognition that has led to the formation of AIMWA, to study men’s issues and demand for a National Commission for Men and Men’s Welfare Ministry.
Men and their identity:
Today, expectations from men have skyrocketed and acceptance levels for them have nosedived. In fact, there is no limitation to expectations from men and no acceptance of their limitations.
In every sphere of activity, men have only duties and obligations but not even an iota of rights!
Today men are expected to,
- Take care of extended families of parents, siblings, wife, in-laws and provide for them,
- shoulder a huge financial burden and risks by undertaking various kinds of advances like home loan, car loan, education loan for the sake of others and live perpetually under stress
- Undertake the primary financial responsibility of the house even if the wife is well-qualified, well-earning and capable of sharing financial load of the family.
- Sponsor the education of young in-laws and their expensive visas and foreign degrees.
- Bow down before their wives or face Legal Terrorism viz. misuse of Section 498A of Indian Penal Code and Domestic Violence Act.
- Act as FREE ATM MACHINES even to estranged and divorced wives and as mere SPERM DONORS.
It is a striking fact that men alone are expected to undertake the most risky and laborious jobs since time immemorial and also have been expected to be the de-facto PROTECTOR as well. It is not unusual to expect a 10-year-old male child to escort and protect 30 years old able-bodied female aunty.
However, at the same time, the de-facto protector is left unprotected, unsung and uncared for.
Additionally, men are emotionally castrated right from the age of 6 as they are discouraged from expressing their pains and feelings. Dialogues like, “Do not cry like a girl”, “Be a man” are quite common for chiding an expressive boy whose psyche and identity is just evolving. And the impact of these suppressive salvos have a traumatic effect on the boy and the hurt is so deep that the boy develops a fear of self-expression and turns numb to abuse the rest of his life!
As a result, men are finding emotional confrontations extremely painful when they grow up and most men contemplate suicidal tendencies during the emotional turmoil in their relationship and a substantial percentage of them actually commit suicide. The fact is corroborated by the published statistics of the Government:
1. 2005: 52583 married men committed suicide vis-à-vis 28188 married women.
2. 2006: 55452 married men committed suicide vis-à-vis 29869 married women.
3. 2007: 57593 married men committed suicide vis-à-vis 30064 married women.
Besides, men face domestic violence in the hands of their wives and in-laws in the form of physical, emotional, mental, verbal and economic abuse right from day one of his married life. To add insult to this incessant injury, the whole society is apathetic to the plight of married men and he is presumed to be the offender in all family disputes in total disregard of the factual position. None of the organs of our polity like the executive, legislature, judiciary, media, law-enforcement and above all the Judiciary is sympathetic to men but have developed an adverse disposition towards the male of the species.
Some of the other forms of harassment and discrimination faced by men:
- Men pay more taxes than women at the same income level.
- Men are provided no protection against sexual harassment at workplace and against rape and seduction.
- Men do not have the choice of vocation. He is expected to subordinate his preferences to the needs of others in the family. That is because he is always the provider to others at the cost of his own personality. He has to just slog. He lives and dies for others. He is forced to don the mantle of the breadwinner for the whole family (including the extended family upon marriage) or else face a social death.
- Men are not allowed the luxury of being the master of their own destiny.
- Men are not accepted by the society the way they are – just normal human beings. He is reduced to the role of a robot – the eternal protector and provider with no desires of his own!
- Men are not provided with a free and un-choked communication channel – a channel that listens to them without invalidating their feelings or ignoring or trivialising their problems.
- No schemes are being furthered either by the Government or eminent social celebrities for boys the way they are happening for girls. This has led to more boys dropping out of school resulting in in crease of juvenile delinquency. Shunned by the society, such boys grow up with gross inadequacy and ultimately turn criminals.
- There is no concept of MEN’s RIGHTS, only RESPONSIBILITIES and DUTIES enshrined for them!
“National Commission for Women” – A commission sworn to commit total mutilation and annihilation of men
A case in point:
Very recently, in the case of alleged complaint of sexual harassment by an air hostess of Air India, it was clearly established by a departmental inquiry that the air-hostess had violated the rules of the airline by entering the cockpit which she was not supposed to and later on, she filed a false complaint of sexual harassment against the innocent pilots. Though innocent, the pilots were forced to seek bail fearing arrest due to adverse scandal whipped up by the media and unethical handling of the issue by the National Commission for Women (NCW) – the hotbed of male hatred.
Also, on the 12th of October 2009, the NCW proposed radical, preposterous, ignominious and vicious recommendations in Section 125 CrPC (maintenance for wife, children and parents) asking men to shell out “maintenance even to adulterous wives” and for forcing a man to pay maintenance to his estranged wife “irrespective of his sufficient means”.
Is empowerment of women synonymous with extermination men? But that is the perception of the anti-male elements populating the NCW.
On the occasion of the INTERNATIONAL MEN’s DAY, “AIMWA” places the following demands before the Government and the society:
- Immediately form a National Commission for Men to study the issues that men face and bring forth comprehensive recommendations for ensuring equality and for redressal of men’s grievances.
- Institute Men’s Welfare Ministry that will implement the recommendations of the National Commission for Men on behalf of the Government and also attend to the welfare of men on a regular basis
- Abolish all anti-male and gender biased laws and make all laws gender-neutral
- Close down the National Commission for Women.
- Rationalize the tax provisions to make them gender-neutral.
- Form welfare schemes for boys and girls equitably.
- Form an ombudsman to regulate the anti-male slant and negative stereotyping indulged in by media, television and films against men.
- Allow single adult men to adopt children before the age of 30.
- Do not force men to don the role of the sole breadwinner against their wish and give them a right to choose their way of life.
- Address health issues of men like prostate cancer, short life expectancy, high suicide rates, cardiac problems, diabetes etc with seriousness.
- Government should urge the private sector to come up with Health Products specifically targeted to diseases affecting men in large numbers.
- The World Economic Forum should start recognizing men as human beings and conduct a study and publish Gender Index of Men similar to that of women.
“AIMWA“ aims to work for men’s welfare and urge the Government and the society to take serious note of the problems of men, before it is too late.
All India Men’s Welfare Association, Chennai
I’m a victim of harassment and extrication of money from my 2nd wife.I have read about your association but unable to contact you,since I do not get mailing address thru newspaper columns.I appreciate your participation for these atrocities from such ladies and house wives.I would like to become member and would like meet Lawyer Mr.D.Arulthumilan,since I’m a chennaite and living in R.A.Puram.
Please let me inform the formalities at your convenience.
Thanks and regards
S.D.Ullah
Mob: 9710036408
Thanks Mr. Ullah.
Please note that the lawyer you have mentioned doesn’t belong to our Organisation viz, AIMWA. We just joined them just for celebrating the men’s day only.
As a policy we in AIMWA or SIF do not recommend or sponsor any lawyer for the victims. We are mainly self-help groups where we advise the victims what to do and how to save themselves and come out of their difficulties caused by their wives.
You can contact the helpline numbers shown in Save India Family web site or http://www.498a.org and attend weekly meetings conducted every Saturday at Chennai and get help.
You may also get in touch with the Chennai-based members: Mr. SureshRam (9941012958) or Mr. Manoj David (9840324551) in this connection.
I am in distress, harresed by my wife, i need help. pl send you contact number in Hyderabad.
raj
Raj,
You can contact anyone of these activists at Hyderabad:
Narendra Soorabathula 09731388924
Prasad 9848280354
Partha 9573605415
Venu 9966607747
David 9866206969
Sanjay Thumma 9000525222
Pavan 9985858729
Gyanesh 9866228865
Come back in case of any problem.
God bless.
Dear Sir
Do you have any office or members at Nagpur if yes let me know their names and adrress please send the same to me by email..
i need help
regards
rajendra
I am in distress, harresed by my wife, i need help. pl send you contact number in Hyderabad
plz save me and my parents from wife and there in laws
Ajay,
Please contact the helpline numbers at Hyderabad given in the previous comment of mine.
If you still have some difficulty, furnish the details of your problem to this email ID:
info [at] aimwa [dot] in
We’ll try to provide appropriate advice.
Admin, http://www.aimwa.in
Dear all
I would like to draw your kind attention towards the Problem facing by male student. As no
support given to them and they are lacking behind in their academic and other activity and
losses their confidence result in poor performance finally they suffer most in the future.
In Delhi every times the girl performance and result shown in the news for Xth and XII are
at top as comparison to Boys but there is no scheme started only for boys to encourage
them but in the case of a girl there are many scheme only meant for them like “LADLI”and below of it write “Mahila and bal vikas vibhag” where is the Bal vikas go.
I also Think that and ask many of them about the courses and syllabus that certain Topics
are not suitable Which is given in the 6,7 & 8 standard basically from the Chapter which
dealt with domestic violence on women and other which is to be an ANTI-MALE.
As its assumed that only women is the suffer but most of the time Men also suffer and
become a victim of domestic violence by the hand of women and other related issues.
Men related problem and issues are missing from your syllabus only highlighting one side.
Its discriminating in nature and dealt properly as it will create problem for the other.
Also It is to be forced and to brainwashed the male student to assume that only the male
victimize the women but it is not true. When even the educated person unable to say who is the real victim why this type of subject is forcefully taught to the children it’s a crime towards the children.
We will Hopes that all of us by combined work and effort on this matter and takes a necessary
steps regarding this in saves our country future and helps in reducing the crime against Men in India
Thanking you
Naveen
naveensaini63@yahoo.in
Is there any memberships in this AIMWA
I am in distress harresed by wife,please save me & my parents i need help
Dear all
I would like to draw your kind attention towards the Problem facing by male student. As no
support given to them and they are lacking behind in their academic and other activity and
losses their confidence result in poor performance finally they suffer most in the future.
In Delhi every times the girl performance and result shown in the news for Xth and XII are
at top as comparison to Boys but there is no scheme started only for boys to encourage
them but in the case of a girl there are many scheme only meant for them like “LADLI”and below of it write “Mahila and bal vikas vibhag” where is the Bal vikas go.
I also Think that and ask many of them about the courses and syllabus that certain Topics
are not suitable Which is given in the 6,7 & 8 standard basically from the Chapter which
dealt with domestic violence on women and other which is to be an ANTI-MALE.
As its assumed that only women is the suffer but most of the time Men also suffer and
become a victim of domestic violence by the hand of women and other related issues.
Men related problem and issues are missing from your syllabus only highlighting one side.
Its discriminating in nature and dealt properly as it will create problem for the other.
Also It is to be forced and to brainwashed the male student to assume that only the male
victimize the women but it is not true. When even the educated person unable to say who is the real victim why this type of subject is forcefully taught to the children it’s a crime towards the children.
We will Hopes that all of us by combined work and effort on this matter and takes a necessary
steps regarding this in saves our country future and helps in reducing the crime against Men in India
Thanking you
Naveen
Need your help in Kolkata. The matter needs immediate attention and could help in formulating a new law helping men at large.
Thanking you in anticipation.
Hi,
I am going through intense mental pressure as my wife has lodged 498a/406 against me and my parents, please help me and sennnd me the contact number of your local representative.
Regards
Sumit
Chandigarh
09813712129
Hi,
My brother is going through lot of problems because of his wife and her family. They are doing all sorts of things-spying, property case and Domestic Violence case. We lost our father in the middle of this chaos. My brother is going through depression and we are in desperate need of help. Please let us know if there is any resource person in Delhi. I appreciate your help.
Thanks
Mani
Please help me since I have been a victim of abuse from my wife and in-laws.
Thanking You,
Regards,
Prakash.
I would like to be a member of the AIMWA. I am Mumbai based. Please advise the procedure to become a member and conditionalities attached, if any or any subscription fee.